Embracing Loving Kindness: A Holiday Practice by Monica Gelinas

The holiday season envelops us in a tapestry of greetings, cards, and celebrations. It's a time when we can extend heartfelt phrases to others throughout our day, free from judgment. For families and children navigating the challenges of rare or undiagnosed conditions, this practice can be particularly uplifting and nurturing.

And when the season draws to a close, we often find that our gracious greetings fade away. However, the essence of these warm exchanges can be carried forward, especially through the practice of loving kindness.

The Power of Self-Compassion

One of the joys in my work as a Life Coach and Executive Director is to share the tools of Self-Compassion. I discovered that one of its core components is self-kindness. This practice is especially vital for families facing unique challenges, as it fosters resilience and emotional well-being.

Crafting loving-kindness phrases for us and others is a key component of the loving-kindness tool. This simple yet powerful practice can create a profound impact, especially during the holiday season when emotions can be heightened.

Finding Your Loving Kindness Phrases

I often ask myself: “What would I delight in hearing right now?” I listen deeply to my heart, seeking the words I need in both joyful and painful moments.

For example: “It's okay to feel this way.” “I am not alone.”

Or when my mind is racing with self-doubt, I might hear: "You are capable and you have prepared thoroughly. Take a deep breath."

If I write down these phrases, read them aloud, and record them, I create a personal treasure trove of love—a gift to myself that I can revisit as I navigate life’s ups and downs.

Extending Kindness to Others

We can also practice creating loving kindness phrases for others. I have learned to pause and acknowledge everyone in my sight, silently wishing:

“May you have peace and be free from suffering.”

Whether I’m driving, waiting at an airport, enjoying a family dinner, or attending a work event, I spread loving kindness in my thoughts. This practice not only uplifts my spirit but also fosters a sense of community and connection, especially for families who may feel isolated in their journeys.

The Ripple Effect of Loving Kindness

I've found that the more I practice loving kindness for myself, the more I can extend it to others. This silent gift of well-being creates a ripple effect, enhancing the emotional landscape for everyone involved. It is the intention of the heart that opens the door to receive love, and in turn, to give love freely.

Love heals and love never fails. As we embrace this holiday practice of loving kindness, let us remember that our intentions can uplift not only ourselves but also the families and children who may be facing their own unique challenges.

This holiday season, let us commit to practicing loving kindness, nurturing our own hearts, and extending that warmth to those around us. Together, we can create a more compassionate world.

🎁 Your Loving Kindness Call to Action

The holiday season invites us to extend warm greetings, but the ripple effect of loving kindness can last long after the season ends.

• Practice Self-Kindness Today: Discover your own personal "treasure trove of love" by asking yourself, "What would I delight in hearing right now?". Write down, read aloud, or record your needed phrases like "It's okay to feel this way," or "You are capable".

• Extend Kindness Outward: Commit to the practice of silently wishing others well, no matter where you are. Spread a sense of community and connection by wishing, "May you have peace and be free from suffering".

Let's create a more compassionate world together! Will you commit to nurturing your own heart and extending that warmth to those around you this holiday season?

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore, I have drawn you with loving kindness.” — Jeremiah 31:3